Myth vs Reality: Can men be victims of domestic abuse?

Can men be victims of domestic abuse - Reeds Solicitors

Case study: John has been in a relationship with Jenny for 6 years. Over the course of the relationship, John has suffered injuries inflicted by Jenny but feels scared to end the relationship with Jenny in case it leads to further repercussions for him. John wants to know if there is any point is seeking help because men cannot be victims of domestic abuse.

What Is Classed As Domestic Abuse

It is common misconception that domestic abuse only happens to women. Domestic abuse is often portrayed as an issue that affects women but in reality, men can and do experience abuse in intimate relationships too. In the UK, one in three victims of domestic abuse are male.

The Domestic Abuse Act 2021 provides a broad definition of abuse to include physical harm, coercive control, emotional, psychological and financial abuse. The legal protection under the laws of England and Wales apply to men too.

The Office for National Statistics (ONS) shed light on the reality that thousands of men experience domestic abuse each year. The real figures are likely to be much higher as many men feel unable to report domestic abuse due to feel shame or fear.

There protective measures under the Family Law Act 1996 allow a victim (irrespective of if they are male or female) to apply for a Non-Molestation Order and/or an Occupation Order.  These orders are designed to protect the victim of abuse from further harm by the perpetrator. Alternatively, there are also protections available under criminal law. The law in England and Wales requires the police and the court to treat all victims equally. Protective measures are based on safety and welfare and not based on the victim’s gender.

How To Report Domestic Abuse

If you are unsure how to leave an abusive relationship or would like support, you may wish to reach out to a charity specialising in helping male victims of domestic abuse such as ManKind Initiative or Men’s Advice Line (Respect). 

It is important to understand that we all deserve to live a life free of abuse and harm. No one should feel like they have stay in an abusive relationship.

If you would like advice on any of the issues raised in this article, please contact Irrum Shah, Associate Solicitor in our Family Law Department by calling 0333 240 7373, or email us at [email protected].

FAQ

Domestic abuse includes harmful actions towards a partner in dating or family settings. The goal of the abuser is to gain power and control over the victim. This abuse can be mental, physical, economic or sexual. Domestic abuse can happen to anyone, including men. It’s vital to seek support as early as you can.

Crime is the violation of rules or laws that can result in penalties. Being assaulted, sexually abused, threatened or harassed by a partner or family member is a crime just as it would be if committed by a stranger.

Yes, emotional abuse covers non-physical actions aimed at controlling, isolating or frightening you. This can look like threats, insults, constant checking, jealousy, manipulation, humiliation, intimidation and dismissiveness.

Changing your behaviours because you are frightened of how your partner will react could be abuse. Many women and men experience domestic abuse in the UK without ever being physically harmed. Types of domestic abuse includes:

  • Psychological/emotional abuse
  • Physical abuse
  • Tech abuse
  • Economic abuse
  • Sexual abuse
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